Now that you have some form of understanding as to what the Bible has to say, or rather not say on the matter of disfellowshipping, I feel it is important and only fair that we have a brief look at what the actual witness publications have to say on the matter. By doing so I hope you will fully understand my frustrations with this situation.
The Watchtower publication has this to say, taken from an article in September 1981… “”disfellowshiping” is what Jehovahs Witnesses appropriately call the expelling and subsequent shunning of such an unrepentant wrongdoer…. a simple “Hello” to someone can be the first step that develops into a conversation and maybe even a friendship. Would we want to take that first step with a disfellowshiped person?” We have already taken a look at the relevant scriptures surrounding this situation, and so far none of the above corresponds entirely with what the Bible has to say.
This excerpt was taken from the Watchtower April 2012 refers to 1 Corinthians, despite there being no command not to have contact with a disfellowshipped person, here the watchtower speaks of it as if there is… “What if we have a relative or a close friend who is disfellowshipped? Now our loyalty is on the line, not to that person, but to God. Jehovah is watching us to see whether we will abide by his command not to have contact with anyone who is disfellowshipped.—Read 1 Corinthians 5:11-13.
It continues: “Consider just one example of the good that can come when a family loyally upholds Jehovah’s decree not to associate with disfellowshipped relatives.” At this point personally, I am looking for some kind of proof that the bible actually does contain a decree from God with the above advice in it, from the previous blogs we now know (I hope) what the scripture quoted says and understand the context. We can then rightly say that there is no mention of this decree with regard to relatives and close friends, yet just another example of the ambiguity present in the doctrines promoted by the faith. It continues: “A young man had been disfellowshipped for over ten years, during which time his father, mother, and four brothers “quit mixing in company” with him. At times, he tried to involve himself in their activities, but to their credit, each member of the family was steadfast in not having any contact with him. After he was reinstated (This is the process required in order to repent of any wrongdoing and come back into the faith), he said that he always missed the association with his family, especially at night when he was alone. But, he admitted, had the family associated with him even a little, that small dose would have satisfied him. However, because he did not receive even the slightest communication from any of his family, the burning desire to be with them became one motivating factor in his restoring his relationship with Jehovah.” They paraphrase the verse saying “Quit mixing in company with”, this in the next sentence then changes to “not having any contact with”. There is a large difference between the two, so surely if you follow the direct commands set out in the Bible then there would be no way that the paraphrasing should be changed in this manner.
There are a number of ways at looking at this account, one of which is to say: Is this not a form of manipulation? Whereby, they use his closeness with his family to get him back into the faith, a primitive form of blackmail perhaps? I spoke about the witnesses being the masters of a subtle form of control over its members; surely this could be looked upon as an extension of this control. It also subsequently leaves you doubting his motives for returning to the faith. A dilemma I am sure many other former members no doubt go through on many an occasion. Plus it leaves me with the burning question: would my parents have preferred it if I had “repented” and continued lying about my faith, just to avoid making this difficult for them with regard to contacting me. Either way I would have been doing the wrong reason as far as one party was concerned.